Building Your Happy New Year

EF02DD72-A8B7-4C89-AD39-6F45462AA975.jpegWriting this post on New Year’s Eve, I reflect upon the resolutions I set at the start of 2019.

Despite deliberately not setting multiple resolutions, I’m pleased because I succeeded in achieving the three I did set (i.e. drinking more water, training to become a Mindfulness Instructor, and attracting butterflies into my garden).

With 2020 being a brand new decade; this year, I want to aim higher, and have set myself 11 resolutions. This equates to 1 per month, plus a month spare in case one resolution takes longer to embed than expected. 

Assuming that you might also be setting your New Year’s Resolutions,  below are five strategies that can contribute towards habit forming and goal completion:

  1. Set clear goals – when our willpower is spread across multiple areas of our life, it becomes diluted. Therefore, I recommend that you list 11-12 goals, and aim to complete one resolution per month. This will enable you to apply your willpower, in full, each month. Once your resolution is embedded into your routine, it will become automatic, and this reduces the level of effort required to carry it out (or not carry it out)
  2. Anchor your resolutions to existing habits – consider what you currently do in your routine, and introduce your new resolution into a specific part of your routine. For example, if you intend to exercise more, you could change into your workout clothes and go to the gym straight after work; or if you’re hoping to save money, you could substitute your coffee-shop coffee for a cheaper instant coffee from the staff room instead…(e.g. saving £2.50 for 5 days a week, over 52 weeks, will add up to a total saving of £650 in just a year)
  3. Stay one step ahead – this is all about pre-empting the barriers you ‘might’ face. Or, put another way, ask yourself what might put you off? Common obstacles include, poor weather, being tired or not in the mood, and lack of time. Once you’ve identified possible pitfalls, set about creating a plan of action to overcome them. For example, “if it’s raining I won’t go for a bike ride, I’ll go to a spinning class instead”; or “if I don’t have time to meditate when I have to work late, I’ll wake up 15 minutes earlier and meditate at the start of the day instead”
  4. Create accountability – rightly or wrongly, we often care about what other people think of us, and as a result this can be a powerful motivating factor. You can implement this as a tool by telling someone you trust what resolutions you’re working towards. Or alternatively, why not book an appointment with a Coach who can guide you with goal setting, offer you techniques for achieving success, and encourage you to keep striving when it’s so tempting to give up. To make a free Coaching enquiry, contact Rebecca Shivji at CounsellingKind on: 07546 462583 rebecca@counsellingkind.co.uk
  5. Celebrate success – maintain motivation by celebrating your success when you achieve your goals and resolutions. This is will make you feel good, and boost your confidence, which will spur you on towards achieving more goals. Everyone’s different so think of something that you genuinely enjoy doing and will regard as being a treat. Once you’ve identified your ‘carrot’, introduce this as your reward. Then, going forward, every time you embed a resolution into your daily routine, celebrate your success by ‘going for a meal out’ or ‘buying yourself some flowers’ etc. On the flip side of this, if you don’t achieve a resolution, please be kind to yourself. Simply ask yourself whether your resolution still matters to you, and if it does, try again. Good luck!

I truly hope these strategies will enable you to achieve many inspiring resolutions so that 2020 can become YOUR Happy New Year! Do you have any New Year Resolutions? Feel free to leave me a comment below…

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